I have a friend. Dumped by his ex after his ex come to SH to work and then later married to a local here who is her GM. Anyway... cut the grandma story short, he was dumped, and was very sad and depressed for the past 3 years.
Lately, he also came to SH to work. Before he came to work permanently here, 3 of us (me, bui bui, and his another fren) once jokingly told him, "if you ever get a shanghainese gf over here, we will look down on you, and pui pui you!"
Last night, he sms-ed me. Asking me, "will you really look down on me if I fallen love with a local here??"
I was like :
tiu loh...
I calmed myself, restructure an OK sms to him, "fren, it's your future. Just make sure she does not spit, does not cut Q, and does bath daily. If not, i might accidentally slap her gou li gou li."
Anyway, my point of writing this is, it really makes me wonder, how loyal can a once loyal man be?
of course, 3 years is long enough for him to start to forget about his ex. But.. came here for 3 months, and already find himself fallen in love with a local here? Why some people can fall in love so easily in this land one? And last year Nov, he still can't forget about his ex. When we mentioned about her in Nov, he still emotional unstable that time.
So, how loyal can a man be? Sigh... guess not very loyal?
Sometimes I think, if I ever got any dong gua tou fu, and left bui bui alone in this earth, will he forget about me in 3 months, and fall in love with another woman? This thought is very depressing. I have to get an answer from him tonight. :
Monday, April 02, 2007
How loyal can a man be?
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Aiyo... think back of course depressing lar.
When i leave this world, of course, if my hubby can find someone to take care of him, it's a good thing. Provided, she must respect me.. everyday gimme joss-stick. Else... i will become ghost and disturb them when they having sex... give 'em no peace of sex! Kakakakak!
Hmmm.... I live in the moment. If I pass away and leave my hubby alone in the world, I would hope that a nice gal come along and willing to take care of him (not his money that is!!!). But of coz I wish my hubby will still think that I am his forever No.1.
As for your fren, he really found a local ar? I think there are nice local gals here too, but Malaysian gals still rules. Keke... Or maybe he wanna revenge -- U find Chinese guy, I also can find Chinese gal --- Hahaha.... Then one day they meet and realise the Chinese guy & Chinese gal used to date before.
*I watch too much complicated dramas* Hahaha
you both very wei-da.
I cannot accept he will love other woman. I am selfish one.
Very depressing thoughts... :(
AIya... men can never be loyal. Once the small head rises, the big head cannot think anymore!
purple mushroom... this channel is PG-rated leh..
hehee...
If I pass away and left my bf alone in the world, I hope he can find a girl who love him and willing to take care of him as soon as possible. I also hope he won't remember me anymore. Because he won't feel happy if he keep thinking about me and love another girl at the same time. We only have one heart for love, if you divided into two part, you won't feel the real happiness.
PS:I'm Desiy's blog funs long time ago.:)
i think whatever answer your bui bui give u, u will no be happy lar..
keep it up! your blog is GREAT!
babe... if i die one day, i will kill him if he goes out with another woman! cannot cannot cannot. i am sure he can take care of himself so don't need some other woman to take care of him lor...
besides, i can NOT imagine him having sex with someone else because the thought makes me very angry lor...
i am probably more selfish than u i think...
i want him to never forget me, to think about me everyday even if it makes him sad..hmmph
Orange -- thanks => you are really wei da too!
but I think I am as selfish as angela. hahaha... leave aside the xxx scene, i can't even imagine him holding other woman's hand. So, definitely a no-no.
Last night, I forgot to ask bui bui about this question. I dozed off at 9.30pm. I will ask him tonight!
vincent -- your site also very interesting. when are u coming to visit me with your wife & baby?:p
hahahah.. your topic should be "how loyal can a human be?"
this apply for both female and male, because I can be very loyal or other wise.. after breaking up , it all depand if that person is worth for me to continue remembering.. if not, I can easily pack that memory and burn it off..
If I die , I want my boo to live his life strong and find someone else, but to him I must always and forever be number 1... hahahah.. coz I will be waiting for his judgement day to meet me.. ;p scary ei ..
Another additional note to add, bless your friend for finding a person that will make him happy, it does not matter what race / which country she's from ... =)
kx, yah live strong is good, but live strong does NOT mean must find someone else.
u imagine ok, if find someone else, then when everyone dies and assuming we all go to the same place when we all die, then how?
You and the "someone else" fight over him ah?
F*** lah like that.
Then it will be very messy. You will claim that you were with him first, she will claim that you died and left him alone, you will claim that now she also dead he also dead everyone's dead...
I bet "down there" or "up there" must be a messy place with the die-first and die-last women fighting over the man.
Muahahhaha.
p.s. Need ppl to take care then hire domestic help lah. Must find another woman meh?
Need to have sex buy a blow-up doll lah. Must find another woman meh?
p.p.s. Wah the more i think the more angry i get. Deisy! Why u go and start this kind of topic...
Hahhahah
Hold on a second, listen to my two cents worth of opinion.
Firstly, I don't mind he has another woman, I don't mind even if it's almost straight away, as I know he's taking her as a rebound. Great! I want him to think of me as the #1 forever, and whoever who goes out with him will suffer with the fact that, they can never be loved like how he loved me. I win!!!
Secondly, I wouldn't too worry about when they die and meet me at heaven and have to fight over him part. Because, from my personal experience, I guess by the time they meet me up there, I should've fallen in love with another man. Hence, I shall be more worry about two men fighting over me.
Over-confident *blush*
On another note, about the falling in love in three months part. Well, ironically I had just posted something relevant on my blog just before I stalk on yours.
Your friend told you before he came that he still missed his ex even after three years of the break-up. Well, I personally think that he had in fact gotten over it but subconsciously, he chose to hang on to the idea that he's still missing her, as in fact there's no need for him to move on. Maybe he hadn't found someone who acts as an alarm to tell him that it's over, you're ready to move on.
When he came here, he could be lonely in a foreign land, or what so ever, he realized that he's able to move on with life and start a new relationship. Good for him.
Well, that's my point of view. I believe a lot of time we tend to hold on to a belief that we've gotten so comfortable with. It's that kick at your back that make you want to take that great step forward. But, in our busy daily lives, how often do we remember that we need to be kicked, or to kick?
Actually, these few days I still think about this issue, although it might seem to be a small issues to some of you (hehehe... especially to the men).
I don't think I can agree my bui bui go find anotehr woman after I die. Simply CANNOT tolerate the thought.
I must tell him straight about my thinking in one of the fine day. muahahhaa...
you see babes... that's how each and everyone of us differ...
i cannot bear the thought of imagining him in bed with someone else.
it makes me want to do violent illegal things.
hahaha... i cant stop laughing... sis i love to read your blog... made me laugh always and a place to release my stress...:) cant imagine he fall in love with a shanghainese girl. But i believe that the girl is somewhere that attracts him, maybe her attitude, knowledge, cultural, background, or she is 比较有素质。who knows? :P bless him lar... I dont think he is love blind. tak kan u want to see him be down for N years like this.. Better than none... Should greet and congratulations him mar...
maybe she has big bor... hmm... I can accept this if it is true, rather than at the fact she is 比较有素质?
OK lah, I am bad, being sarcastic again..
we shall find out soon.. kekeke.
hahaha.. big por cannot meh? also can 比较有素质 with big por wattttt!!!
big por or what... i think we should give that guy a break la... it has been 3 years... so what if he proclaimed he still misses his ex?
i always say... time is not the real cure to a broken relationship.... a new love is.
zewt - I agree new love helps to cure the scar.
my discomfort is... the girl is sh people. They are famous for big bor, and selfish attitude, and famous also for after married, the real attitude will come out. very cialat one.
anyway, my fren, very cartoon. we asked him yesterday how was it, he said, he actually haven't got to know if she has a bf yet or not.. aiyoheh~~~~
KX - i said big bor I can accept lah.. read properly!
:p
Sei yeh.. you so the racist babe! hahahahahhaha
i guess loyalty applies to both men & women. It's just that i like to blame the men generally cos if men get caught being unfaithful, the next thing ppl will say is that the wife does not treat him well, deprive him of *tut*, ignorant of the outside world cos she is not working but spending time to take care of the children, and it's normal for men to have some fun provided he goes back home every night....
whereas when a gal is unfaithful, she is being labeled a bitch, fox, etc.
so men have every excuses for being unfaithful without being look down wehreas the same fate does not apply to women. UNFAIR!
Just ysdty, my friend is saying that she is filing for divorce after 1 yr of signing that contract. They didn't even have their wedding dinner yet. She confronted the hubbie but he denied it everytime. So she hired a PI to catch them red handed. Only then he admitted. CHIN KAK!
Apologise if this has offended some of you
So sad your fren's partner is so unfaithful. I cannot imagine the pain your fren has to go through. Hiring a PI to catch your own hubby, that itself is very bitter already.
Tell your fren outside still fill with many healthier green grasses!!!:)) Hope she pull through well.
ohh.. so you're afraid that girl is aftering his money more than anything else la. fair enough. but yeah... i think china girls are a bit fake based on a lot of ppl's comments.
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